"All you need is love" sang the Beatles. Do you agree? Do relationships between people who are complete oposites work? Have you been in one? Or do you think, like me, that compatablity is essential?

-- Tim (tim@newmail.net), December 09, 1999

Answers

Err... ever watch Dharma and Greg? I don't think compatability is essential. It's the differences that work out best. Just my opinion.

-- krys (krysten@bellsouth.net), December 09, 1999.

Okay... I have to stop getting involved in things like this. Like Tim, I keep looking for that person that feels exactly like I do.. I think alot of us are looking for that person that agrees with us all the time... but then if you think about it deeper you might start to feel differently. If you find this person that is just like you... can you imagine how boring that would be? Part of an exciting relationship, is when your partner challenges you, debates something with you, or coaxes you to do something that you normally might not do.. get it Tim, I think complete opposites are a bit of a stretch... I dont know if I could handle that...but someone who has differences in opinion or the way they do things is probably the best option. As for me, I look for someone who can make me laugh and can have a normal conversation... someone who can debate a point with me, but someone who doesnt turn it into an argument (I hate arguing more than anything)... definately someone who is willing to try new things, and is able to get me to try new things...

Someone just like you might be a little dull... someone too different could be a big problem... you just need to find a middle ground. Okay, enough of this Luuuuurrve Doctor stuff, back to working my life away. Good luck, Tim... long distance relationships are very difficult.. but all your friends are here to help you. :)

-- Greg Barber (gbarber@gbdesigns.com), December 09, 1999.

Compatibility is obsolete. Physical attraction is obsolete. Money is all that matters.

(Clears throat.) I've clearly never been in a relationship.

-- MEB (clevergirl10101@yahoo.com), December 09, 1999.

Omnia vincit amor ... love conquers all but whoever said that is a damn fool

-- V Schouten (ness_nz@hotmail.com), December 09, 1999.

Well, from personal experience: The best dating experiences are from friends first. It doesn't matter whether you are alike, or opposites, so long as you're friends.

In summation: Significant others are basically friends that you get the added advantage of sexual favors from. But not, you, Tim...you're much too young for that sort of thing...even by British standards.

Chris

-- Chris Vannoy (chris@pigeonhole.org), December 10, 1999.

Why do these boards insist on me writing my e-mail address before my name? It confuses me terriblay.

Methinks compatability (-ibility?) is important for a lasting relationship, but there's a difference between being compatable/ible and being identical. Par example, Office 2000 is compatible with Windoze 98 (well, it had better be, cause I've just spent all morning installing it), but they're not the same. However, if yau try and get Windoze 98 together with Windoze 98, which are the same, they'd smashing each other into v. small shards with animated hammers.

I really need to stop thinking about work during my lunch hour.

Anytay, ven it comes to relationships not being completely alike is useful. Yau would have v. little to discuss if yau shared the same views on absolutely everything.

Not that I'd know or anything.

-- Mystic Zed The Magicke Moosetrainer (zed@swansongs.net), December 10, 1999.

Relationships between people who are almost exactly alike are freaky. They always know what you're thinking. They understand -too- well. There's too much intensity and not enough mystery.

Just a hypothetical, of course. Not from personal experience or anything. *whistles*

-- Cyn (eclipse@mail.terabithia.net), December 10, 1999.

I AGREE. HOWEVER THERE IS MORE TO A RELATIONSHIP THAN COMPATIBILITY. EVEN IF YOU AND A PERSON HAVE NOTHING IN COMMON YET FOR SOME REASON YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO THEM THEN ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE AND UNDERSTANDING. FOR INSTANCE I HAVE A FRIEND THAT I MET AT COLLEGE. WE HAVE VERY LITTLE IN COMMON YET I FIND HIM ATTRACTIVE. BUT NOT SEXUALLY. I FIND COMMON GROUND THAT WE BOTH SHARE AND FROM THERE WE LEARN TO LOVE NEW THINGS. WE HAVE BECOME BEST FRIENDS AND BECAUSE WE HAVE FOUND NEW THINGS TO ENJOY WE HAVE FOUND EACH OTHER. THIS MAY MAKE NO SENSE TO SOME BUT TO OTHERS THEY KNOW WHAT I AM SAYING

-- DFR (CHAP_GIRL_2000@EMAIL.COM), November 24, 2000.