Deb, in her newly resurrected journal, starts to ask a forum question, then remembers she doesn't have one. The question comes out of her suspicion that her SO has a cheerleader fantasy going: "What's your favorite fantasy?"

I was curious, too, so I borrowed Beth's forum.

-- Anonymous, February 02, 2000

Answers

Response to Deb's Journal Question

Any married person with toddlers will understand this one: My fantasy is sixteen hours alone with my wife. The first twelve don't count, because we're so sleep deprived.

-- Anonymous, February 02, 2000

Response to Deb's Journal Question

Mine is something like yours, Tom: four hours alone with Jeremy with no dogs or cats whining at the door or nudging their way in between us, and with neither of us worrying about work or bills or whatever. It'll never happen, though.

-- Anonymous, February 02, 2000

Response to Deb's Journal Question

A room with a king-sized bed at the Williamsburg Lodge in Williamsburg, VA.

Once a year on Valentine's day ... ahhhhhhhhh

-- Anonymous, February 02, 2000

Response to Deb's Journal Question

Damn. I could give you a really good fantasy if my mom didn't read this forum!

Oh, what the hell - Mom (Linda), you probably REALLY DON'T WANT TO READ THIS:

My major unfulfilled fantasy is to have two men at once. One vaginally and one anally at the same time. I just think this must be the most mind-blowing experience - to feel so full like that, to have a lovers warm breath on your cheek AND the nape of your neck, to feel them rubbing up against each other inside you - and it's something I've told lots of lovers, but have never managed to find the right combination of men, situation and time... I'm too picky about my lovers, I guess. And, yes, I've tried it with dildoes and I just don't think it's the same...not that I know yet, but....

-- Anonymous, February 03, 2000

Response to Deb's Journal Question

I hope I don't get any freaked out e-mail from this...

I have a few sexual fantasies, but my number one is the same as Heather's. Just the thought of two men at the same time drives my out of my mind! I know it'll probably never happen, but it sure is great to think about.

I've done the sex outdoors. That was fun. Light bondage can be enjoyable, too. A couple of other fantasies have turned out to be fun and not at all weird.

I've even thought about what it might be like to be with another woman. Might be interesting.

Of course, there's a list of famous actors with whom I'd like to do the horizontal bop. (It's a long list.)

Right now, though, my chief fantasy is to have a meaningful relationship with a gentleman with whom I can have sex on a regular basis. I miss it (both the relationship and the sex).

-- Anonymous, February 03, 2000

Response to Deb's Journal Question

Myself dressed in a leather bustier and other accoutrements, whipping my slave who begs for more and more. I cruelly torment him by not hurting him enough, but finally let go and give him the thrashing he really wants.

A fantasy about the actual man in my life...hmm. We've been together a long time and the passion is long gone, for me. I admire you folks who can sustain an interest in one person over time, but I just can't. He has no fantasies as far as I can discover (beyond "I have sex with a beautiful woman") and is totally meat & potatoes in our sex life, despite my best efforts.

-- Anonymous, February 03, 2000

Response to Deb's Journal Question

Deb suspects that her husband harbors a thing for cheerleaders after he said "Victoria's Secret really ought to sell cheerleader's costumes." I think she has it backwards -- cheerleader outfits are revealing, but generally not too sensual. I think he has a thing for Victoria Secret catalogue models. VS catalogues are the most socially acceptable 'soft-porn' guys can get. I think he meant he'd have liked to see the women in a VS-designed cheerleader outfit and wiggle around in front of the cameras during a game.

-- Anonymous, February 03, 2000

Response to Deb's Journal Question

Hey, Dean, I really think he does mean cheerleader's outfits, but you have to remember that we were watching professional football, not college. Those pro cheerleaders' costumes really DO look like they were designed by Victoria's Secret.

-- Anonymous, February 03, 2000

Response to Deb's Journal Question

The whole "two-men-at-once" thing really bothers me. It would (a) probably hurt, (b) be really awkward and I'd probably just end up laughing at them: "Okay, now move a little to the left. Can you just swing your leg over her so I can get a good angle? There. Ow! That was my hand!" and (c) be weird trying to snuggle afterwards. I'd end up having to kick one of them out and I'd feel a little bad about it.

That being said, I don't actually know if I have any "fantasies" per se. There are some guys I'd like to get my hands on, just for a one-night stand or something, but we won't get into that just in case someone reads this forum and goes and snitches to them. :)

I will, however, tell you that ((drum roll, please)) Alan Rickman is at the top of my list as far as fantasies go. I don't care that he's 54 years old. Doesn't bother me a bit. As soon as he said anything - I don't care if he's reading the telephone book out loud - clothes would be flying and I'd assume the position in 2 seconds, tops. If given the chance, I think he just might jump at the opportunity to feel his oats again and have sex with a 20-year-old girl. Following a close second, provided that he wasn't... uh... "of the persuasion" (not that there's anything wrong with that!), would be Rupert Everett. Damn his preferences.

I seem to have a thing for baritone British guys.

-- Anonymous, February 03, 2000

Response to Deb's Journal Question

Mmmmm, I'd have to say the big one would be to be with another girl. Coincidentally, my husband's biggest fantasy is for me to be with another girl. (While he gets to at least watch - original, huh?)

-- Anonymous, February 03, 2000

Response to Deb's Journal Question

The 2 men at once thing is prime on my list. But I have a really deep fantasy for being a sex slave. I can't beleive I'm telling you, I don't know any of you. But it would just be interesting. Being a dominatrix would also been fun. I have been interested in what a girl-girl thing would be like. I just want to know what it'd feel like.

-- Anonymous, February 03, 2000

Response to Deb's Journal Question

My favorite fantasy.....

My husband comes home from work, and cleans the kitchen without me asking him too.

I'm easy to please.

-- Anonymous, February 04, 2000

Response to Deb's Journal Question

Actually -- right now my favorite fantasy would be to have _any_ sex at all on a regular basis.

What is WRONG with some men's testosterone? I mean is it really too much to ask to get some nookie more than once a month?

Other than that -- my favorite fantasy is actually a regression. I fantasize about being deflowered by an experienced lover, in some kind of romantic setting, instead of by a nervous high school boy in the back seat of his father's Ford Thunderbird.

-- Anonymous, February 04, 2000

Response to Deb's Journal Question

I like thin men. With flat, flat stomachs and collarbones sticking out. Mostly any fantasy I've had for a while involves that. I know, weird.

As regards professional cheerleaders' outfits being designed by lingerie makers, they look more like Fredericks of Hollywood brainchilds to me.

.kill

-- Anonymous, February 04, 2000

Response to Deb's Journal Question

Um. Brainchildren.

Mmkay.

-- Anonymous, February 04, 2000

Response to Deb's Journal Question

The two men at once thing? Check.

The woman thing? Check. (Actually, I'd just like to FINISH the woman thing. I came AWFULLY close with someone I absolutely ADORE, but we never quite *finished*.)

The sex slave thing? Oh yeah. (No dominatrix thing, though. I'm so completely sub it's pathetic. Come to think of it, so is the one woman I messed around with, that might be why we kinda got going and then stagnated. Ugh.)

I have this one about LOTS AND LOTS of men. (Maybe I should have kept that one to myself.)

I think I need to stop before this turns into something REALLY raunchy. (=

-- Anonymous, February 04, 2000

Response to Deb's Journal Question

Beth K -- my sympathies! :P Yeah, M and I are going through a bit of a dry spell, too... We only get together on the weekends, so if someone's not into it, that's it for the week. And he works nights and I work days, so it's *really* been like "two ships passing in the night" lately. I'll be rarin' and he'll be sleeping, then he'll come in at 4:am all set to play, and I'm like, "leave me the fuck alone!" Geez, the neighbor's *cat's* getting more action than me...

A few elements can put a damper on libido, like depression, lack of sleep, or stress. If your boy's experiencing any of these, that could be why things have been mellower than you'd like.

I've noticed that when I excercise my energy level increases -- and more energy means a randier me! ;> The same actually goes for M -- he's a *much* happier lil' boy when he's been working out. More confident, too. Maybe that might help?

Fantasies? (Besides my wedding being over, the two of us living together full-time, and *on the same schedule?!*) Hmmm...light (and light-*hearted*) bondage, and perhaps exploring a relationship (not just sex) with another woman. It's something I would like to try, but highly, highly unlikely to ever have happen -- if I were single, sure, but I'm not, so it won't. (Nope, no "watching," either. I'm fairly certain M wouldn't like it; and if tables were turned, I don't think I could handle M being with someone else, guy or girl. I'm a jealous wench!)

So now you all know...

-- roe

-- Anonymous, February 04, 2000

Response to Deb's Journal Question

I have the same reaction to the two men thing - seems like it would just be awkward and painful and ultimately it would be hard to keep from laughing.

beth k, maybe we should trade husbands. Once a month is more than enough for me. Weeks can go by with me forgetting how long it's been I blame the antidepressants, partly.

-- Anonymous, February 04, 2000

Response to Deb's Journal Question

Everyone knows that those of us who were in our teens and 20's in the 60's and 70's already did just about everything there was to do, sexually speaking, right?

So what's left to fantasize about other than the usual stuff that most people think about but never do, if you've already done it... hmmm, I'll have to think about that. :)

Mainly I'm wondering why the *parents* are being warned away from this thread... their fantasies might be more novel than those of their children, you just never know, tho' they might be less inclined to post the info in a public forum. Or are the parents in question known to be prudes or something? I dunno, am just asking.

-- Anonymous, February 04, 2000

Response to Deb's Journal Question

The parents were warned away because some of the offspring and their parents have expressed discomfort in the past about finding revelations in this forum that they didn't especially want to find. And so far it's been the offspring doing the revealing.

Although I will confess I was a little afraid that my father was going to post something embarrassing here ... rumor has it he's after my mom to buy him a breadmaker ...

-- Anonymous, February 04, 2000

Response to Deb's Journal Question

I am finding this discussion somewhat after the fact, so I don't know that anyone will read this, but here goes...the confessional.

At another stage in my life, I lived a lifestyle that enabled me to live out the vast majority of fantasies that I might have. I was surprised at how popular the two guy fantasy is. I have done that successfully on two occasions and, physically, it is awesome! You really have to be of a frame of mind that it is all physical, and there will not be any snuggling or other sort of girl-like bonding happening afterward. Another tip is that it is difficult to orchestrate unless the two men involved are either very close friends and comfortable with each other, or bi themselves. Aside from those situations, men seem to have a problem staying hard when their penises get that close to one another...very frustrating for me!

Done the girl/girl thing with good and bad results.

Ultimately, I have found that for me, the fantasies are not all they are cracked up to be in real life. I am a sensation seeker by nature, and it seemed to take more and more kink to get me excited. I have since done a lot of soul searching and am convinced that what I need is one good, loving relationship, wherein my partner really cares about me and takes the time to not only learn, but remember the things that I like. I am lucky to have recently found that.

I have a bit of a residual harder bondage fantasy lurking around me, and my current boyfriend has been somewhat accomidating. My problem with this is that I trust him implicitly. I know you're gasping, "that is a problem???". Well in the bondage game yes. Because for me, it is the fear of bodily harm that makes it exciting, and I know that he would never really hurt me. If I ask him to, that will ruin it. I especially have a newfound interest in sexual asphysiation. I know, wierd, not to mention dangerous. It scares my boyfriend to death. I don't know where in came from but if anyone knows any psychological significance of that, I'd be interested.

Jenn

-- Anonymous, February 07, 2000

That should be asphyxiation. I'm a bad typist, not a bad speller.

-- Anonymous, February 08, 2000

Hmm, no wonder there was an 18 and over warning on this thread is all I can say :) I don't know, Jenn, this asphyx thing sounds a bit worrying to me, but since you ask, try clicking here, you may or may not find something helpful I'll be off now for a very cold shower before I reveal too much more of myself

Tonight We Sleep In Separate Ditchesself-flagellation central

-- Anonymous, February 13, 2000