Judging from the instant flinches at the mention of "dipping," I thought I'd bring up the subject of turn-offs. Don't worry, I'll start a turn-ons one, too.

-- Anonymous, April 28, 2000

Answers

Guys who look me square in the chest (one of these days, I'm going to snap my fingers in front of some man's nose and say, "I'm up *here,* buddy!")

Men who scope the room for better-looking women while they're supposedly talking to me.

Cigars. Dip. Chaw (chewing tobacco).

As I said before in the other thread, bad hygiene.

Or am I just too picky?

-- Anonymous, April 28, 2000

whining.

-- Anonymous, April 28, 2000

Men who are obsessive-compulsive about their fetishes, but I don't want to go into this.

Pot-smoking. Just gotta love that stinky butt breath.

Married men who flirt, date, sleep around, or erstwhile attempt inappropriate behavior.

Lying. The ultimate turn-off.

Anyone over 30 who still takes money from mummy and daddy.

-- Anonymous, April 28, 2000

Dipping is obviously a no no.

Guys that don't know me that call me 'honey', 'baby' and 'sugar'.

Piercings. I don't mean one or two earrings.....I mean like 15 in one ear, 8 in the other, eyebrow, lips and tongue all on the same guy. Could you pick like one, please? sheesh

too much cologne....but I mentioned that one already, too.

-- Anonymous, April 28, 2000

-smoking, doing drugs

-only cares about what I look like

-uses lousy pick-up lines

-too much cologne..yes...

-dresses sleazy [like silk shirts and slicked back greasy hair..basically like a pimp or something..ick].

-illiterate as I've said.

-- Anonymous, April 28, 2000

TRUSTAFARIANS.

there. i'm honest, open and ready to kick their asses.

oh- back hair is pretty icky, too.

-- Anonymous, April 28, 2000

When I have to pay for everything, or even most everything. I like women who can pay for themselves. It cuts down on clouds of dependency.

I dated a girl recently that ate hardly anything all day. Then I would take her out to a nice restaurant and she would act like there was a buffet.

She would order several items, different drinks including wine and fruit juices, desert. All of it significantly racking up the bill.

Then she would spend the rest of the night with indegestion--farting up a storm. Talk about deflating the romance!

-- Anonymous, April 28, 2000

Combination beer/cigarette/Taco Bell breath. Guys who live with (or off of) other family members. Guys who pass gas and then laugh hysterically about it. Guys who call me "Dude". Guys who don't own a car (unless they live in New York). Yup, I think that's it.

-- Anonymous, April 29, 2000

Back hair. ew!!

Alcoholics/guys who drink too much.

What's a "trustafarian"?

-- Anonymous, April 29, 2000

SPITTING!

-- Anonymous, April 30, 2000

Constant seriousness. For me there's no greater turn-off than someone who just doesn't want to cut loose every so often.

-- Anonymous, April 30, 2000

And anybody who uses the word 'darling' to their partner. Don't go there!

-- Anonymous, April 30, 2000

"Darling" and "Dude" are bad? No way! Those are both great expressions of affection!

Here's a COMPLETE turn-off. Guys who don't know when to END a kiss. Please tell me y'all know what I mean. Kissing is the best but, the process is not one, long, endless Roto Rooting of the mouth, ok? One kiss occurs and then, another - and so on. The tongue goes in, and it comes OUT.

The last guy I kissed was not up on this technique. He was kissing me with such intensity and endlessness, I had to break every kiss by jerking my head to the side - I couldn't even force my lips closed to end the kiss - causing him to slobber all over my face.

Not acceptable.

-- Anonymous, May 01, 2000

Let's see total turnoffs-

-Body Odor - and it's nasty sidekick - too much cologne. -No manners -Nasty teeth - yellow/chipped/crooked, etc... -Too much back/chest hair -bad grammar

-- Anonymous, May 01, 2000

trustafarian: (i have a feeling this is not limited to austin) college-age kids whose parents pay for everything, yet the kids dress in really dumpy hippie clothes and roam the streets, occasionally talking about "the man" bringing us down, and begging for change.

oh- they usually reek of patchouli, too.

-- Anonymous, May 01, 2000

Allison - oh, ick, ick, ick. I hope you're not still kissing this guy.

Thought of another one (the mention of bad pick-up lines reminded me) - asking me what my sign is. I react very badly to this one. It's the year 2000, not 1975.

-- Anonymous, May 01, 2000

Spitting - yeah i agree with that one. Also loud boyish belching in public places. Asking to borrow my toothbrush. I don't care about the toilet lid thing - I've had waaaay to many male roommates to give a damn anymore - but peeing with the door open after like 5 dates? Um, no.

Too much colonge is a definite no-no. Oh and if a guy uses more hair- products then I do, it's not exactly a turn-off but he'd better be ready for some hard-core mockage :)

Yellow teeth - ICK.

Guys who can't support themselves, have no ambition and don't mind running home to mom and dad when things go wrong - *every* time - and have no spine whatsoever. I like'em independant and in charge of their lives.

Oh and that paying thing; you know, I'm a 'dutch' kind of girl - I like to pay my own way. But I just dated three guys in a *row* who *refuse* to let me pay. It's driving me *mad*! It's sweet and a nice gesture but man, bugs the hell out of me for some reason.

The physical trait stuff isn't a real issue with me. I went from a completely hairless boyfriend (well almost - haha) to a rug! And well - that really had nothing to do with how much we enjoyed ourselves. I don't really notice I guess. There has to be something to attract me to them initially of course- but that's generally eyes and chemistry.

-- Anonymous, May 01, 2000

Whoa,is this whole site basically girls(the only one that I saw is Austin)sorry if I forgot someone,I hate it when girls act like they know everything,of course Bad hygiene,a girl who just ignores me,a girl who is mean to me(like they act like they can beat me up,talk crap about me,stuff like that,and a tomboy,I hate it when girls act like guys.

-- Anonymous, May 01, 2000

Ugh. I felt like running to the bathroom to wipe down my face after reading that Allison. You're right, that wins hands down over gushy names any day. I'm now getting horrible flash backs to that bad-date-from-hell I had back in my uni days.... eww... eww.. eww.

What do you mean ACT like we know everything Mike? (only kidding, honest. I know nothing, just ask my boyfriend).

-- Anonymous, May 01, 2000

I hate guys who start a boring conversation, ignore all hints that you aren't interested, and continue to talk all the while trying to back you into a corner or a wall so that you can't escape.

Maybe this is only a trait of men with political ambition, because it happens to me at every political event I attend.

Cia

-- Anonymous, May 01, 2000

Wallet chains! Facial hair! Ewwww!

-- Anonymous, May 01, 2000

tobacco smoke, sorry ya'll but it stinks

-- Anonymous, May 02, 2000

Bad hygiene.

Excessive body hair.

Bad breath.

Old, extremely drunk guys who think it's okay to hit on someone who's old enough (young enough?) to be their daughter. Ick.

-- Anonymous, May 02, 2000

Slack, rubbery lips. You know the ones. They're kind of soft and puffy, sometimes they hang open (as in mouth-breathing), and they lead to mushy, imprecise kissing.

Bad hygiene. Now, I'm a girl who takes baths as a hobby and likes to smell good, and I don't hold the boys in my life to that standard, but bathing/brushing teeth/changing into clean clothes once a day is a must.

Smoking/other tobacco product use. Not only is it a nasty habit, but given the obvious links between tobacco and cancer you'd have to be dumb as a rock to be my age and still using. And coffee-shop hipster breath (dehydration + coffee + cigarettes) is the worst.

Fanaticism. Sports, religion, whatever you do, if you don't at least have a little sense of humor about it it's kind of scary.

-- Anonymous, May 02, 2000

Molester mustaches.

Any odour that is not clean or yummy smelling.

Martin Short.

Dirty ears.

Poor grammar.

Men with long hair.

Banana eating noise.

-- Anonymous, May 02, 2000

I forgot one: swigging from the mouthwash bottle like it's a freaking bottle of beer. Yick.

-- Anonymous, May 02, 2000

Yo, that's fucked up, Christine.

-- Anonymous, May 02, 2000

Excessive body hair, especially on the back and the tops of the ears.

Constant post-nasal drip and throat clearing sounds that let me know it's happening.

Loud, lip-smacking food chewing in a quiet room. I am driven to walk out.

Trying to kiss me right after having eaten something. I just know that there's still food in there, waiting to leap into my mouth. Exception: If you've just eaten ice cream or had fruit juice, I can handle it.

Aie, I've listed more here than I did for the turn-ons. I think I need to go repost.

Shelly Loom

-- Anonymous, May 02, 2000

speaking of wallet chains... If anyone has seen the movie 'Erin Brockovich' all I want in life is that man that she falls in love with... that is really all I want. So normally wallet chains would be a turn off, but it just works for him. Turn offs? Guys that are too feminine, too thin boys, and any man that has on their wall a playboy calendar, or the kind that car places usually give out at Christmas time.

-- Anonymous, May 02, 2000

A penis ring. I dated a guy that had one, and it was about the worst thing I have ever run across in my entire life. Of course, this falls under the larger category of "gratuitous self-mutilation" which was referenced earlier (and I paraphrase "pick one, already").

Definitely with all of you on the bad hygiene thing in all its incarnations.

Thoughtlessness. Think before you act, people: "How would that make YOU feel?" Then try for the even harder "Based on how well you know me, how do you think it would make ME feel?"

Someone deliberately pushing my buttons to elicit a negative reaction because they think it's cool to see me get upset, or because they think it's silly that I do and that I should get over it through desentization. Hint: It won't help me get over it. It will help me get over them.

I'm sure there's other stuff, but I am most surprised by the new quirks that we all run across when we meet someone new (or read the previous posts here). Things we have never seen before or heard about that make us go, "Ew", an immediate and completely visceral reaction. Or for that matter, things that make us go "Rowr!" or "Yeah, that works"... but that's the other thread.

-- Anonymous, May 03, 2000

Women who:

- can't spell - curse too much - use bad grammar - smoke - cheat on boyfriends - pre-judge ANYone - don't express themselves

all turn me off.

-- Anonymous, May 03, 2000

Bad grammar. Inappropriate use of apostrophes. Bad hygiene. Not taking responsibility for their own actions (especially if this turns into, blaming me). Scaly lips. Whining. Trying to convert me. Smoking. Heavy or habitual drinking. Generation gaps (though only for real, live men; Harrison Ford and Ed Harris are okay). Anger. Excessive use of adjectives. Rudeness to waiters/tresses. The phrase, "I'm not racist, but..." The phrase, "I'm not sexist, but..."

Joanne (Parietal Pericardium)

-- Anonymous, May 04, 2000

I'm glad to see so many people have mentioned smoking. Who wants to kiss an ashtray?

Seeing somebody smoking is about as appealing as watching somebody shoot up. It's gross, man.

-- Anonymous, May 04, 2000

okay, im late on this one....

boy who use words like "titties" *vomit* i cant stand that at all...

-- Anonymous, June 16, 2000

Girls that want to be, want to look like, talk, walk or try to talk like someone else..(i.e. Britney Spears, J-Lo...etc), and get mad if you tell them that they don't look or sound like them. Be your own person! Extremely loud girls in bed are a turn off. Girls with messed up teeth, stained faces, dried up hair and manly hands are a turn off as well. Girls that try to kiss me with morning or bad breath (that includes smoking) Hairy nipples are disgusting! Pimples or acne on girls' back or neck is very foul. Girls without a sense of humor... Girls that won't date a guy just because her friends tell her not to. Older girls who try to be young by giving me a "high five" Finally, beautiful girls with a narcisist attitude, they won't return a smile or say hi back to you and hate to see other girls getting attention while she is around. Sorry ladies, no hard feeling I hope. Tony

-- Anonymous, March 04, 2002