I'm so lucky I have mine, she always is nice, and the free samples, saving me some money on medicine sometimes, is super!

what do you like about you Dr?

-- lunesse (lunesse@lunesse.com), May 24, 2000

Answers

Thanks for your thoughts.

I know I want to be married, I know I am ready for it. I know DLJ is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. No one has made me feel as special as he, or worked with me to keep a spark flaming, keep the relationship hopping, doing new things together and apart, and making me feel like I can talk to him about any issues I have. It's the healthiest relationship I have ever been in, and I really love him, and he loves me, and lets me know all the time.

NOW. Of course I sound hesitant. Marriage is a BIG deal. There'd be something wrong with me if I didn't wonder what I was doing, what it would be like, dealing with changing my identity so much. I'm a very independant person. Many people I have talked to who are married have said they have thought the same thoughts, others say they haven't. I always root around deeply in what I am doing with my life, it in no way suprises me, or makes me feel like DLJ isn't the man I am supposed to be with. I merely touch all aspects of things that happen to me, to experience them to their fullest.

=)

Luny

-- lunesse (lunesse@lunesse.com), May 24, 2000.

Thanks for your thoughts.

I know I want to be married, I know I am ready for it. I know DLJ is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. No one has made me feel as special as he, or worked with me to keep a spark flaming, keep the relationship hopping, doing new things together and apart, and making me feel like I can talk to him about any issues I have. It's the healthiest relationship I have ever been in, and I really love him, and he loves me, and lets me know all the time.

NOW. Of course I sound hesitant. Marriage is a BIG deal. There'd be something wrong with me if I didn't wonder what I was doing, what it would be like, dealing with changing my identity so much. I'm a very independant person. Many people I have talked to who are married have said they have thought the same thoughts, others say they haven't. I always root around deeply in what I am doing with my life, it in no way suprises me, or makes me feel like DLJ isn't the man I am supposed to be with. I merely touch all aspects of things that happen to me, to experience them to their fullest.

=)

Luny

-- luny (lunesse@lunesse.com), May 24, 2000.

Hi,

First of all, I love your site. I've been reading your journal for a year now and I have read many of your previous entries as well. I just have to say, and there is no easy way to put this, but ..... you don't seem ready to get married, at least to DLJ. YOu often sound like you are trying to convince yourself that he is the right person but it sounds like lately, you 2 have had distance. Think about it.

-- A friend (test@test.com), May 24, 2000.

I've been married for 23 years. There is one big thing that both my wife and myself have found out. Not to think or rely on your mate to make you fullfilled in life. You will let each other down after marriage, no matter how hard you try. Commitment to each other is your goal. Each of you will go through periods of not supplying, not fullfilling and even completely letting one another down. If you do not have commitment to each other in those times that's is when major marital problems occur. Commitment comes in the belief of different things that give you strength and perseverence. Many find it in religion, ideals, goals, etc. My wife and I have not treated each other very well at times, but divorce has never been an option. We have two children, son 20 and daughter 12, they have seen our foolish actions and our goo actions and have worked and stayed together. Both children are very secure and my son who is off the college is grounded very well because of our commitment. My son enjoys being at home and having his friends over. He doesn't go out searching for love. He has it at home, has seen it triumph and enjoys being around us. My daughter is learning the same. I want you to know that you can have a good marriage. But it takes work and forgiveness. Give 150% and don't expect it back. It does happen. Sincerely, Doug

-- Doug Anderson (doug1000@mediaone.net), May 25, 2000.