Why don't you guys actually answer the peoples questions instead of giving them web sites and addresses? I don't understand that if you guys are going to make the site then you should have the answers to the questions! Thank you, I'm sorry.

Trista

-- Anonymous, May 28, 2000

Answers

I'm not sure what you mean.

-- Anonymous, May 30, 2000

THATis the problem Jade. YOU do not get it. To you, this must be just a crusade to say that 'Look and see what a good person I am.' Every number that I have gotten from this site has turned out to be a dud. I recieved one tip to call the Montrose Center in Colorado. That Center is a 6 hour drive for me. And while being that far away from my wife would be an excellent idea, I do not know if I could drive that far with a black eye or a stab or slash.

-- Anonymous, June 30, 2000

THAT is the problem Jade. YOU do not get it. To you, this must be just a crusade to say that 'Look and see what a good person I am.' Every number that I have gotten from this site has turned out to be a dud. I recieved one tip to call the Montrose Center in Colorado. That Center is a 6 hour drive for me. And while being that far away from my wife would be an excellent idea, I do not know if I could drive that far with a black eye or a stab or slash.

Wow, such hostility, Frank. Why are you so angry? What we do is list all the information we have on the website for you to use. If the information is outdated, then let us know, and I'll change it or remove it. If you give me specific examples of what didn't work out for you, then I'll remove it.

In addition, there are very few resources for people like you and I, Frank. There may NOT be any resources closer to you than Montrose, at least that I'm aware of. You can drive to the hospital or call the police, but those are not the resources than I'm listing on the web page.

If you have more suggestions, please suggest away. Your complaints aren't very constructive, and seem to be lashing out at someone that's actually trying to help out. I do this in my free time, because I wasn't able to find services when I needed them. This is not my job, and this is not something I am obligated to do for you.

-- Anonymous, July 11, 2000

If Frank is going to be so abusive of Jade, I wish he'd be more constructive of stay off the site. It has been my personal experience that Jade is very sincere about this site and has created a wonderful resource. Perhaps Frank has been abused too many times and is taking on the behaviour of his abuser.

-- Anonymous, February 12, 2001

I think Frank likes being abused and is looking more for sympathy and a pitty party. I live in Colorado, he should get a therapist and a good attorney. Both can give him the advice and support he really needs. I just found this site today and have really enjoyed it. It gives people help and the knowledge that they are not alone. Abused people feel very misunderstood and alone this helps. I think whoever came up with it and is servicing it is doing a great thing ... at their own expense. Thank you for your generosity.

-- Anonymous, June 27, 2001

i have to say this to lynda, and no hostility is intended, but nobody lkes being ABUSED.

people who seem to, have been abused for so long that the sudden abscence of that terrifies them. they don't know how to function in a safe environment because it's unfamiliar territory, and their safeguards and behaviors are suddenly irrelevant, dangerous, embarassing, etc.

it's safer, easier (isn't this human nature?) to stay with what is familiar. that's like saying a crack addict likes crack. nope. they just like the abscence of the vacuum, the space in which they have learned to breathe.

there are people here who are damaged, and you are seeing scars and symptoms of scars, and wounds that haven't closed. misogyny, misanthropy, overcompensation, etc. these are symptoms of disease. not the disease itself.

that "likes abuse" bullsh*t has been used too many times in the mouths of cops and judges and counselors (and abusers!!! let me say it again, and abusers!!!!!) and it's just a way of ducking the problem. notme. him. (her) he (she) likes it. not my fault.

-- Anonymous, July 14, 2001

Are You supposed to Be pregnant?

-- Anonymous, February 12, 2003

Are you really Pregnant?

-- Anonymous, February 12, 2003

Are You Ready For Your Big Night Trista

-- Anonymous, February 12, 2003

tell Lynda and all the critical people that again...this is a site to help not to abuse again

-- Anonymous, March 10, 2003