I got a phone call about an hour ago ,my husband is hurt w/ a stone chisel in his hand. I cant go because he has the car w/ the car seats in it and my "dear old mother-in law "is going to see him instead of looking after the kids for me....got to love it.Well this could be a long day around here. just needed to vent. thanks

-- renee oneill{md.} (oneillsr@home.com), January 10, 2001

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That's when I'd load the kids up in the available vehicle and secure them with the seatbelt and go to the hospital.If stopped tell the officer that the hospital called and the carseats are in the other vehicle...they are more understanding than given credit for...go to the hospital!!! Let us know how your husband is doing!!!Mother-in-law sounds like she hasn't snipped the apron strings yet!!! HOOT help me out here what does the Bible say about cleave unto spouse as opposed to parents!!

-- Tammy S.South in Western KY (w-feather40@webtv.net), January 10, 2001.

Renee, hope he's o.k., gosh your in-laws, well lets just say, I have to admire you for your patience, sound a little bit like mine, (sometimes) but I go off on them every once in a while then they leave us alone for about 2-3 months, which is nice! Can you get someone to come over and watch your babies, the hospital isn't a good place for them anyway really if you have another choice, they'll be sick from all the sickness in the hospital, if I was closer I'd come watch them for you! I've read some your post about your in-laws and your babies. Let us know how he's doing, o.k. Blessings

-- Carol in Tx (cwaldrop@peoplescom.net), January 10, 2001.

Well it seems he managed to drive a chisel through his hand in between his last finger and ring finger,they are checking to make sure the ligement is not cut. I thought about loading the kids up but I felt I would be putting them in danger,all4 are still in car seats and the only car here is a pick-up or dump truck.5 people in a pick- up may not be a good idea,but i really thought about it! well just wait until good old mother-in -law gets here or calls......i may regret what i say to her but boy will it be nice to let her know. Thanks,sure do wish we had disability insurance now,oh well

-- renee oneill{md.} (oneillsr@home.com), January 10, 2001.

Not a very sensitive lady is she? No excuse for not picking you up at all as far as I am concerned...Wonder if the hubby will have any words for Mom..not likely..glad he is doing okay and a few carefully chosen words to her will do just fine...

-- Lynn (mscratch1@semo.net), January 10, 2001.

Well so far so good ,for the hand that is. Bunch of stiches and an open punture ,should heal in a few weeks. The chisel slid across the top of his hand before going in,he used duct tape to fold the chisel in place going to he doctors,would have loved to see the ER doctors face. Well the battle of the m-in-law has been fought and won with out blood.She came in to help her poor son make it to the sofa and to express her concern for his safty and maybe if i got a job he would not have to work so hard,well....flip out is nice compared to what I did.I let her speak and then took off ,I mentioned we wake-up at 5:30 am so she could have his breakfeast here by 5:45 am and pick up the kids and laundry and feed the stock,do the bills,make lunch for him,clean,do at least 1 hr of school work w/ the kids,bath them and have them dressed and I would leave to go get a job.Well that did not go over well,then I mentioned how rude it was not to pick me up or watch the kids.She told HS I did not want to go so she felt she needed to,he did Not believe her. So he started flipping out and she left with the rule that she is not to call or stop by until she admits she was not truthful to him and agrees never to pull a stunt like that again. I will believe it when I see it! well alls well that ends well. Thanks for letting me vent!

-- renee oneill{md.} (oneillsr@home.com), January 10, 2001.

I'm so glad your dear husband is home and safe. AND I'm so glad he backed you up to his mother. It must have been very hard to not go to him when you didn't know what was happening to him. You did make the right choice in not packing those children into a car without proper safety seats for them. We have a 'student' who is in a coma from an accident with no safety seat-she will propably be vegatative for the rest of her life (she's four!) It makes no sense to put the children in a dangerous place EVER. As for your mother-in-law, I'm proud of your husband for backing you up-it took a real man to stand up for his wife to his mother. I hope for the sake of your children you can manage to not separate them from their grandmother. Of course she may the type of grandmother you don't want them close to as such young children, but as teens and adults they may benefit from her. I know that I wish I had been able to overcome the negative relationship my mother had with her mother-in-law (probably the original mother-in-law from hell) to know my grandmother. She was a couragous woman, hard working and a stubborn Swede. I lost a grandmother and a tradition because of their strained relationship. I miss both. betty

-- betty modin (betty_m9@yahoo.com), January 11, 2001.

Glad your dh is o.k., I joke with mine that maybe the E.R. will give him a frequent visitors card since he seems to visit so often with injuries he's gotten working around our place, crushed fingers, cut open thighs from the chain saw, metal fragments in his eye, just to mention a few! LOL Sorry about the mil but sometimes things just have to be said, maybe you'll have some peace for a while now, but I know it's diffucult regarless, it's a shame we have to resort to such. I'm not sure how people use to live in large extended families way back when with 3 generations under one roof, but I'm sure there had to have been words at one time or another and you just got over it and moved on. Blessings

-- Carol in Tx (cwaldrop@peoplescom.net), January 11, 2001.

Thumbs up to you renee and a few pats for the old man too..am sure the MIL probably means well..but son does have a wife now. I am glad you spoke your mind and not let it go by..happens to often now a days. Have found that build-up causes resentment..so steam away. Later

-- Lynn (mscratch1@semo.net), January 11, 2001.

Renee, just wanted to say that I agree with everything you said/did. Traveling in the car with little ones not in car seats is not good regardless of the reason. Had one of your children been injured or killed you would have never forgiven yourself. I have been on a volunteer ambulance corps and can't tell you how often people make the wrong choice and have to live with the consequences. "But we were only going to the corner store, etc., etc." You also did the right thing by speaking up to your mother in law in front of your husband. That way it is not a he said/she said kind of thing. And hooray for your hubby for sticking up for you as well. Sounds like you have a good one.

-- Colleen (pyramidgreatdanes@erols.com), January 11, 2001.

Renee, glad your dh is allright & doing well. I agree with everything you did & said.

-- Phyllis (almostafarm@yahoo.com), January 12, 2001.

Carol in TX - if you will recall, people started living consistantly beyond 50-ish about the same time that we stopped living 3 generations to a house! LOL!! Probably all died from stress, aneurisms, and gunshot wounds!

-- Soni (thomkilroy@hotmail.com), January 13, 2001.