What do you think is sexy that others probably don't?

-- Kymm Zuckert (hedgehog@hedgehog.net), March 12, 2001

Answers

Well, just to get the conversation started, I will say that I went on a couple dates a few years ago with someone who had a very bizarre fantasy about dental examinations. Certainly brings new meaning to the phrase "Open wide . . . "

/Robert

-- Robert (rbdimmick@earthlink.net), March 12, 2001.

* This is a fifties stereotype that you don't hear too much of these days, but I like a man with a big appetite. I like watching men polish off 16-ounce steaks with potatoes; a man should eat like a man. Men who eat salads and get doggy bags strike me as wussy and asexual. Is it any wonder that every boy I've slept with for the past twelve years has outweighed me by at least a hundred pounds? [Of course, the sexiness of a hearty appetite is undone if the guy has bad table manners -- taking too-large bites, chewing with mouth open -- or gets ANY food at all on his face over the course of the meal and doesn't promptly swipe it off with a napkin.] I also find it sexy when guys fix things such as cars, phones and toasters; I think both these preferences are probably linked to atavistic desires for a [powerful, beefed-up] protector and provider. [Good thing I let my NOW membership lapse several years ago, so they are now saved the trouble of booting me out.]

* Because I turned 30 last year, a new feature has been added to my annual doctor's exam: a melanoma check wherein every year, my doctor must go over every inch of my skin, taking notes and measurements of all moles and markings for comparison in future years, so as to catch skin cancers early. I was warned by the nurse that many patients find this acutely embarrassing and uncomfortable, but they must not have my doctor, who is stunningly attractive and sensitive in the Noah-Wyle-as- Dr.-Carter mold. Mmmm. I can't believe my insurance pays for this.

* A hand curving around the back of my skull -- gripping me just above the nape of my neck -- will weaken my knees, like a kitten going limp when picked up by its mother. No explanation for this one.

* Men kissing one another. Why is it that lesbianism is so widely recognized as a normal fetish for straight men, while there is no female-audience-aimed erotica based on two guys getting it on?

-- Kim Rollins (kimrollins@yahoo.com), March 12, 2001.

when a man cups my face in both of his (large) hands and pulls me close. man.

that's about as unusual as i get. i'm rather boring. hee.

-- liz (lizbutlr@unm.edu), March 13, 2001.

I gotta go with the girlz up above, I love, love, love having my face or neck cupped. So sexy... I also love this particular type of nose that I've only seen on Julia Roberts, my ex boyfriend and some guy I see walking around campus at my college sometimes. I have no idea what it is about those kinds of noses... but wow. I also love kerchiefs-on-heads... in a hippie way...

-- kathryn (iceqween@brandeis.edu), March 13, 2001.

I find work sexy. Sometimes. My work. I think that definitely makes me a great big freak.

-- tracing (tracing@tracing.org), March 13, 2001.

Face cupped in hands? This is a deviant turn-on in a thread inspired by the erotic nature of a movie featuring boars gnawing on human skulls and a guy chowing down on his own pan-fried frontal lobe? Come back when you've developed a real perversion.

-- Kim Rollins (kimrollins@yahoo.com), March 20, 2001.

Okay...fuck me backwards and call me weird.. but I think Hannibal was SOOOO incredibly sexy in the movie "Hannibal". His voice and his....wow..just gives me shivers just thinking about it. Not that I run around picking up 60 year old men but wow...just...wow. Come on, when he has cornered the agent and is speaking to her in his creepy, sensual voice...don't tell me that does NOTHING for you!

"Clarice..." Ooo... I have to go now. Typing with one hand is rather uncomfortable and inconvienent. Heh.

-- Lindsay Dubler (promisetomorrow@aol.com), January 12, 2002.

*grins* Well of COURSE you find Hannibal sexy Linds, you think eating people is sexual foreplay.

Hmm. I could say that I think Dungeons and Dragons geeks are sexy, which some of them actually are ... I think I'll put it like this; I think role players are sexy. People who can slip in and out of their imagination, and actually make an effort to remember how to play with themselves. (NOT LIKE THAT!)

People who let their minds roam free ... to see a man so utterly engulfed in his own fantasy that his eyes don't even recognize you for who you are ... That's just delicious.

-- Lindsay Heer (evillittlegirl@aol.com), December 27, 2002.