Would a wedding in a Catholic church be possible if I am an agnostic and my fiance is a non-confirmed Catholic(though he is very religious, he does not believe in being confirmed)? Also, what if I don't want a long drawn out mass- is it possible to pick out what we say during the ceremony, or do certain scriptures have to be said? Would we not be accepted if I am a complete skeptic of the Catholic church- maybe not of religions- even though I respect his religion, I have a very negative view about the Catholic church.

Also, how much does the class and the whole ceremony in the church cost? Thank you.

-- Anna San (diddly@yahoo.com), February 23, 2005

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it is customary to bump a post so that it will enter the new answers section which many people have bookmarked.

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-- bump (bumppmub@bumpmail.com), February 23, 2005.

What does that mean when it's bumped to the new answers?

-- Anna San (detalde@yahoo.com), February 24, 2005.

New questions are posted on one page that not everyone checks throughout the day. Many here only look at the New Answers page which only shows questions after they have been answered at least once. Thus, the original post was intended to make more people aware of your post and to invite comments. I'm not the one who "bumped" it, but it's a fairly common practice.

David

-- non-Catholic Christian (no@spam.com), February 24, 2005.

Hello, I'm still wondering what other Catholics thinks about this topic...is itpossible for me to respect his religion even when I have a negative view of it?

-- Anna San (detalde@yahoo.com), February 26, 2005.

Anna,
Nothing's impossible. But if what you say is true, you don't respect religion NOW.

The sad fact is, a Catholic unwilling to be confirmed is a bogus Catholic at heart. If Confirmation is optional, maybe he sees Matrimony as optional too? Looks like you're the honest one in this pair. What an opportunity you have. All you need now is to be humble. We'll sincerely pray for your conversion, Anna.

-- eugene c. chavez (loschavez@pacbell.net), February 26, 2005.

Canon 1065 - § 1. Catholics who have not yet received the sacrament of confirmation are to receive it before being admitted to marriage, if this can be done without grave in convenience.

There are a variety of Scripture readings available for the Rite of Marriage. Mass is not necessary, actually discouraged for a mixed marriage.

There are no charges for the celebration of the Rites of the Church, but there may be charges for organists, etc.

His not believing in Confirmation would make it very difficult for him to be married in the Catholic Church.

Why do people ask all these marriage questions on the internet? Why not go see a priest.

-- Fr. Paul (pjdoucet@hotmail.com), February 26, 2005.

For years now, Father,

This forum is visited routinely as if Oprah Winfrey was on our panel-- i.e., ''Let's see what Oprah tells me to do!'' Here's a girl who wants Catholics to explain how much all this megillah's going to cost. There'll be another few asking something just as banal within days. Lol!

-- eugene c. chavez (loschavez@pacbell.net), February 26, 2005.

I come to this site to find out what other Catholics or so called Catholics have to say...My fiance doesn't believe in confirmation because he believes that what is important to him is his connection between himself and God. I don't believe in it or baptism before one is of the age to think for themselves.

The reason why I have such a negative of the Catholic church is because of all those superficial rites and rituals; and then there are also all those Catholics who look at others condescendingly when they are the biggest hypocrites themselves. A big issue I have with anyone who believes in a God or religion is when he/she believes or picks whatever he/she thinks applies to him / her and then looks down at other people who don't meet his/her version of the religion.

I have a general idea of how much it costs, but I was wondering how others would mandate the cost. I've had a bit of trouble seeing why so much of the donations should go to the upkeep of the Vatican, superficial rites and cover-ups of the perverted twisted priests.

What's wrong with people coming to this site for Oprah-like episodes? Isn't this forum to help educate or enlighten the common mass? Apologies for not speaking Latin or talking about a subject that suits your liking, Chavez.

-- Anna San (detalde@yahoo.com), February 26, 2005.

This thread appears to have been a "set up." Anna seems to be a tool of the Prince of This World. He attacks the forum frequently, because he hates the good that is sometimes done here.

Fr. P wrights, "Why do people ask all these marriage questions on the internet? Why not go see a priest."

If it helps you to ask this again and again, keep asking. But I recommend that you not bother, because they have always come here, and they will forever continue to keep coming here. It seems to be in the nature of many people (for example, people who are uneasy visiting a priest in a state of total ignorance) to want to come here for a pressure-free slow chat about their topic of concern. I suggest that you not let it bother you any more, since the questioners are almost always given decent information here. When someone makes a mistake in replying, someone else comes along to set the record straight.

-- (OK@lets.go), February 26, 2005.

Sincere apologies for the outburst- I just read the rules of the Forum and I did not mean to disrespect them.

I just wanted to find out how my non-confirmed Catholic and I would be considered for a ceremony in a Catholic church; and what kind of ceremony would be allowed.

Obviously there are other issues that I would have liked to address or learn about, but I'll have to learn more Christian ways of adding to the forum.

Thank you for all your input and again apologies if the previous posting was offensive.

-- Anna San (detalde@yahoo.com), February 26, 2005.